I will be real honest here. In my household we struggle with bedtime. STRUGGLE.
I have a VERY hard time getting my children to go to bed consistantly. Both of my children sleep in my bed with me. It started as necessity as I didn't have a crib for the baby and no toddler bed for the girl but now that's just where they are happy. I finally have a crib but it only has 3 sides. (Soon to be ex husband only brought me 3 sides of it 9 months ago and has yet to bring the 4th side...) I have a toddler bed but I can't always convince my daughter to sleep in her own bed.
Bedtime for us typically consists of mommy holding the boy until he falls asleep and the girl snuggling beside me on the bed until she falls asleep. Even if they had their own beds there would be problems with bedtime since I am trying to put two very small children to bed at the same time and the one I am not focusing on at the time tends to go a bit wild and stir up the one who was sleepiest. It is very frustrating and is making me old before my time!!!
I don't believe in crying it out. That goes against my attachment parenting style. Obviously what I am doing is NOT working because it sometimes takes me 2 hours or MORE to get my children to go to sleep at night and that is an awful lot of time spent chasing my tail when I could be doing something productive like cleaning the house or writing articles for you folks or doing P90x to try to get in shape. I am tired of being tired. Does anyone have any suggestions for better bedtime strategies for me?